Alabama University Softball Coach Patrick Murphy once said “Uncoachable kids become unemployable adults. Let your kids get used to someone being tough on them. It’s life, get over it”. In today’s world being offended or having your feelings hurt is the “end of the world” to so many. There is no longer competition in the fear that somebody will be upset when they don’t win, there is no longer prayer in public in fear that somebody of a different religion will be offended, and the biggest fear of all seems to be somebody having an opinion.
When I grew up I was raised to believe that debate and differences of opinion is what makes each of us who we are. No two people will ever agree on everything but that’s okay, but at the end of the day it’s the differences we all have that make life interesting. Sure my feelings were hurt when I didn’t win the Spring Beauty Pageant or I was struck out in the big game, but my mother didn’t yell at any judges or umpires, I wasn’t given a crown or another pitch just because, and even though it upset me I realized that in life I might fail but if I learn and grow from the failure, then I never truly failed at all.
I was amazed to learn that in some school districts it doesn’t matter if a team wins or loses during the regular season because everybody gets a chance to play in the district tournament. When I was in high school, our sports teams didn’t just get a spot in the district tournament it had to be earned by winning more district games in regular season then what we lost. And if we didn’t do well that year, we didn’t play in district because we didn’t earn our spot.
This got me thinking about the generation I’m seeing come up and how entitled they seem to be. I wonder just as Murphy said, “what kind of employees will they be”? A few weeks back I tried helping out a young mother by letting her do some light house cleaning to make some extra money. She was very young just turning 20, but she came in with a good attitude and got to work. I figured the situation would work out great, I’d get a little help around the house and she’d make a little extra money for her and her baby. Then after she was finished and I paid her the discussed amount she seemed upset but thanked me and left. Later she called me and told me that even though she appreciated the job, she had to make more than what we had discussed (which was around minimum wage) when I asked how much she said with a strong entitled voice “I can’t work for no less than $10 an hour”. I thought my jaw was going to fall off. Ten dollars an hour for folding clothes, washing dishes, and sweeping/mopping floors, no hard work just daily chores that my 9-year-old sister (besides the sweeping/mopping) has helped me do for a $20 allowance a week! What shocked me even more was the entitlement she had, she continued on to tell me she was much too hard of a worker to only earn minimum wage and if I wanted to keep her then I would have to be paying her more because I was taking advantage at the minimum wage pay. Needless to say I didn’t want to keep her that much and I told her thank you but I just could not do that price and to have a nice day. Three days later she called asking if I’d hire her back for $9 an hour.
The point of the story is if we continue allowing our children to believe that they automatically earn or get something because that’s what they want then we will have adults with medals, awards, and prize-winning resumes that don’t know how to actually work. These teens that will become our working adults will have all the confidence in the world until they don’t get their way, then they will throw a fit and leave. That’s not how we should be raising the next generation! Feelings are going to get hurt, somebody will always make more money or be a little better than you, but that doesn’t mean you stop trying. It doesn’t mean that you throw a fit hoping to get your way and then sulk the rest of your life when you don’t.